If you are feeling like a failure it might be because you aren’t where you thought you would be at the end of the year. We start off the year with so many goals to achieve and high expectations. We have new energy to do everything and set all kinds of amazing goals. Then life happens, work gets busy, breakups, illness and so on. Our goals fall by the wayside and before you know it’s November and you haven’t achieved what you set out to do.
Here’s what you can do to stop feeling like a total failure because you aren’t.
1. Document your successes
You will have achieved a lot this year. Unless you make a conscious effort to recall great things you did, you will convince yourself the year has been a flop. So get a sheet of paper and write down the months of the year up to October. Go through each month and write down all the great places you visited, people you met, new things you learnt, the wins you had at work and all other great things that you did. The more you write, the more you will remember and not only that you will start to get some happy memories coming back to you.
2. Plan the next 60 days
Using the energy you’ve created from recalling your successes, look at what you wanted to do but haven’t managed to achieve yet. Pick one thing you think you can achieve before the year ends. Plan what you will do each day for the next 60 days so you can achieve your goal. It’s best to stay focused on one thing so you have time to get it done. Having too much to do leads to overwhelm and not doing very much which is not what you want.
3. Analyse what didn’t work so well
Learning from your mistakes is a great way to move forward and improve. So look at the things you think didn’t go so well and list out why you failed. Empower yourself by looking at what you can do better and how you can influence better in order to get a different outcome. Even when things don’t go to plan there are always lessons to be learned and as long as you don’t give up, you will succeed.
These 3 steps can help you come out of the emotional cycle of feeling like a failure. By the end of the exercise, you will realise you’ve done a lot already, there is more exciting stuff ahead of you and even in what you list as failures there were some positive outcomes. These steps can also work at any time of the year.
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